I love going on vacation and spending time with my family, but sometimes it’s just nice to be in my own home again.

Crysta and I spent the last week in the Northwoods with my family. And by “my family,” I mean there were ten of us in a cabin together. Besides my wife and I, there were my parents, my brother and his partner, my sister and her husband, and my sister’s two kids. And let me be clear, I had an amazing time the same way I always do. Between the St Germain Flea Market, playing softball on Lost Lake, going to the White Stag, spending time on the lake, and playing Connect Four with my brother, I loved every minute being with the people I love in my favorite place on Earth.

But I also just missed my own bed, my own chair, and just the privacy that kind of disappears when you, again, put ten people in one house.

Of course, the respite will be short. This weekend (Aug 2-3) Ethan Flanagan and I are tabling at Big Minneapolis Anime in the Twin Cities, and then the weekend after (Aug 9-10) I’m going to be at Anime 414 in Milwaukee. But, at least for now, I get to be home.

And it’s a nice place to be.

View Comments

Ever since I started making witchcraft content online, I started using a phrase “I’m not in your head, I’m in in your house.” It’s kind of a tag I end up adding on to a lot of other stuff, but I thought I should explain what I mean when I say that because I think it’s something maybe more people should keep in mind.

The first part, “I’m not in you head” should be pretty obvious — I don’t have your experiences. Like, I haven’t felt what you’ve felt or seen what you’ve seen. There’s so much in witchcraft that ends up being internal, and I don’t have the ability to truly have that shared experience with you. I’m not here to delegitimize those things, but likewise you shouldn’t assume those things can be pushed on other people.

The second part, “I’m not in your house,” is simply that I’m literally not in your house. I’m not going to smack that white sage out of your hand and wag my finger in your face. While I might tell you that I think you shouldn’t do something or that what you’re saying is ahistorical and wrong, in the end I cannot stop you from doing anything. I am not in charge of you or what happens in your home.

And for some reason some folks… act like I am?

So if you follow me on social media, you know that I sometimes end up in weird arguments that if you think about them for more than five minutes make no sense. Like I’ll make a post saying “I think this is a bad idea” and I understand people initially giving me push back, sure. Like that’s normal human instinct.

But as the conversation continues, with a few of them (not all — just a few) it becomes increasingly clear that for some reason they think I must be in charge of them. Like that I can somehow stop them from doing anything. Because let’s be clear, I can’t.

So yeah.

I’m not in your head.

I’m not in your house.

View Comments

So for those of you who aren’t on TikTok, you might not be aware that over the last few days a bunch of people have been obsessed with a particular situation. You see, a woman was invited to a party by a friend, and then the host was super rude to her and she left feeling bad about it. She made a video about how sad she felt, and then the host of the party came online to defend themselves. In that defense, they pretty much just established they were being dicks.

That’s it. That’s the situation. Obviously there are more details, but you’re not exactly missing any nuance. And, as I said before, people are obsessed with this. Videos have millions of views, people are making re-enactments, there is intense discussion… and it’s the lowest stakes thing possible. This isn’t the first time this sort of thing has happened. For example, back in 2021 “Couch guy” took over certain corners of the app — where folks spent weeks speculating about some random college kids’ romantic lives. Time after time, that social media app turns random people into the centers of intense attention, only to be forgotten about in a few weeks.

This happens on other apps too, of course, but I feel like the algorithmic feed and video format of TikTok focuses this kind of thing far more intensely than any other platform can.

I find myself asking if any of this is healthy, or if it’s remotely good for anyone. People gang up and pile on. Bystanders have their lives invaded, and people speculate about things that are probably nobody’s business. I mean, a lot of people are putting a lot of time and effort into someone being a shitty party host right now. I don’t know if I have any larger point other than how strange this all is — that we’ve built this world the way we have.

But I guess that’s TikTok.

View Comments

So anyone who follows me on social media already knows I’ve been having some issues with the Apple Podcasts entry for BS-Free Witchcraft. For some reason, the main Apple Podcasts page for the show is missing about a full quarter of the episodes. Like there are some random ones missing (like episode twenty-nine), but also like the entirety of July 2022 through February 2024 are just… gone. Even though they’re still in the feed, Apple just doesn’t have them listed anywhere.

And, like, these episodes appear fine on Spotify and Amazon and any platform where you just plop in the RSS feed. It’s only Apple Podcasts where this is happening.

And I’ve gone through everything I can think of to try and fix this. There is nothing within my power to correct this.

Of course I’ve since reached out to Apple’s support (and they assure me they’re looking into it — though who knows how automated that email was), and I’ve created a work around. Using the Nerd & Tie Network backend, I’ve made an alternate Apple Podcasts feed for the show I’m calling the “White Logo” feed (as I’m having it display the old white version of the show’s logo instead of the current green one). Both the White Logo and the classic “Green Logo” pages will get the new episodes, but the White Logo version has the full archives for anyone who wants to use Apple Podcasts to listen to the show.

For some folks this would be satisfactory. Like there’s an alternative route for listeners to get the show, and Apple is working on it. But my brain… it just won’t stop thinking about it.

And this is not helpful. I literally can’t do anything I haven’t already done. Literally everything within my control has been tried. I’ve made sure there aren’t any weird settings in the feed, and that there aren’t any major errors. I’ve tested the feed in multiple podcatchers, and even looked at weird ones online that no one uses and found that they’re working fine. There is literally nothing I can do but wait for Apple Support to fix it, and hope that it gets resolved.

My stupid, obsessive brain just won’t shut up about it though.

It’s so frustrating. Why am I wired like this, where it’s so hard for me to let go of an unsolved problem. I fixate until I find a solution, and when there is no available solution it just stews in there, rattling around.

Ugh.

View Comments

This last weekend Crysta and I celebrated our fifteenth wedding anniversary. Now, you may be saying to yourself “Hey Trae, didn’t you do something in May for your anniversary?” and yeah, yeah we did. But we also did more stuff because we felt like it.

Because sometimes you just want to do fun stuff.

Since the Stardust Drive In up in Chetek didn’t open this year (and we’re really hoping it comes back — but this is the usual death knell of a drive in), we haven’t been able to go to a drive in movie theater this year. We started going to drive ins for our second wedding anniversary way back in 2012, and it’s kind of a big thing for us. With Stardust a no-go, the closest drive in is the Big Sky in the Wisconsin Dells — but that’s a two hour drive, and not something we can easily go to and drive home in a night.

So we got a hotel room.

We actually got a room in Mauston (because it was only a 20 minute drive to the theater and way cheaper than a room in the Dells), and had a wonderful night out seeing the live action remake of How to Train Your Dragon. On Sunday morning, instead of driving straight home, we instead drove back to the Dells and met up with my brother David and his partner Mary for breakfast at Paul Bunyan’s. They suggested doing it a week ago when we saw each other on Father’s Day, and I was 100% on board immediately.

We used to go to the Paul Bunyan’s in Minocqua, but due to some family stuff with the owners and the pandemic, that location never re-opened after it was shut down in 2020. We had a wonderful time hanging out for a bit, and it’s just a fun, kitschy place to spend some time.

Honestly I feel so lucky to have spent these last fifteen years married to Crysta, and I look forward to the rest of our journey. We’re both so different than who we were when we first got married, but we’ve changed and grown together. I look forward to finding out who we become in another fifteen years.



View Comments

So I talked about it briefly in my entry earlier this week, but when I was in Wauwatosa last weekend to see family, we went out to dinner on Sunday night. Because it was Sunday, options were a bit more limited, so we ended up somewhere none of us had ever eaten at before: Buckatabon Tavern & Supper Club.

Now, if you know me, I’m a sucker for a supper club. I’ve spent my whole life going to various supper clubs across Northern Wisconsin, and the idea of a new place recreating that vibe in the Milwaukee suburbs sounded appealing. But here’s the thing… this place is not a supper club.

Sure they have a relish tray on the menu (which has disappeared from most current operating supper clubs, but what the heck), but you’re going to pay $15 for it. Most real supper clubs will provide at least a soup or salad with an entree (and in some cases, like the Fireside in Rhinelander, both), but you’ll be paying extra for that experience.

There isn’t even a French Onion Soup on the menu.

And look, the place is decorated in a kitschy way that somehow sits between the now-shuttered Al Gen in Rhinelander and maybe the Clearview Supper Club in St Germain, and the staff was friendly… it’s just not a supper club.

And the thing is, if it hadn’t advertised itself as a supper club, I might have liked it. The food was mostly good, but it wasn’t perfect — my burger was excellent, but several of my family members ordered their steaks medium rare and had them show up almost well. The broccolini that came with the pecan crusted trout was just… not good. All of it could be forgiven for just being a busy night, since it was Father’s Day.

But they promised a supper club.

And it wasn’t.

Like this is the Epcot version of a supper club — it looks a lot like the thing, but it’s all surface and in the end you’re spending way more money than if you had just traveled to the real deal. I wanted to like this place, I really did. But it just misses the whole point of the thing it’s trying to be.

I liked the pride stuff at the bar though. As a queer person it did make me feel relatively safe there.

I just wish it had been a supper club.

View Comments

So right now I’m sitting in my living room, kind of exhausted, looking at a green chair that used to sit in my Grandmother’s living room. This weekend was eventful, and I’m tired.

Crysta and I went down to Milwaukee so we could spend father’s day with my parents (along with some other family members). We went to the Brewer’s game on Sunday, and like any game of baseball, it was a good time. I’ve never been a huge sports person, but I love watching a good live baseball game.

Honestly it was an amazing day.

Before I left town on Saturday though, I swung by the local No Kings protest here in Eau Claire, and then spent a chunk of time at the local Pride celebration. I tend to be a bit of a shut in these days, so with all the awful stuff in the news it was nice to remind myself that there are good people in the world willing to stand up for what’s right and for each other.

My grandmother passed away not that long ago, and one thing I had my parent set aside for me was a chair. I realize that it looks a bit more gold in the photo, but trust me when I say it’s green in real life. This morning I loaded it into my pickup and drove it across the state and got it into my living room. I loved this chair as a kid, and importantly… it swivels. And when I was growing up adults would always yell at me not to spin the chair. Well guess what, it’s my chair now.

And no one can stop me from spinning.

I dunno — it was just a lot of stuff in a short amount of time. We also went out to dinner after the baseball game yesterday, but I think I’ll give my full opinion on that later this week in a different blog post. Because we went to a restaurant none of us had been to before, and uh… I have thoughts.

That was vague. I’m being vague. You’re just going to have to be okay with that.

View Comments

So it was literally more than twenty years ago that I first put one of my dumbest creations on the internet: The Steven Seagal Movie Generator.

Like I seriously publicly launched that dumb thing back in 2004, and for those of you who were unaware, it assembles a title, cast and plot of a fake Steven Seagal movie from elements of his (real) bad films.

I honestly got the idea from a former-friend, who in high school wrote a comedic piece about how you could mash up the titles of Seagal films in the weird underground “newspaper” that got handed out for a few years. But I took it a few steps further, and made a whole thing.

Mostly it just sat there though, a thing I made once and never went back to. I followed it up with the Sci-Fi Channel Movie Generator (later retitled the Syfy Movie Generator) in 2008. I spent more time on that one, doing a later design update that made the “Syfy” movies show up on a fake DVD back cover.

But the Steven Seagal generator just sort of sat there, untouched.

And Steven Seagal kept making (terrible) movies with (predictable) titles. Like a lot. But the generator still only spat out movies culled from the nineties and early 2000s, ignoring all of his new stuff. There was a whole library of awful movies that just weren’t in there, and it made the generator feel less relevant.

So, uh, I went and did something about that today.

First off, I redesigned the page. Now it looks like the back of a VHS tape box. Then I loaded the elements of about twenty-five additional films into the generator. And that was harder than I thought it would be, since some of the films are so obscure that they’re not well documented. I literally had to do some deep research to figure out a lot of the basic plot details that are now in the generator.

But I did it.

And it’s done.

And the generator is now fully loaded.

It’s still useless and dumb, though.

View Comments

So a lot of you know that I have a Patreon. If you didn’t, uh… you do now? I originally launched it for my comics, but it kind of transitioned to being mostly focused on my Witchcraft podcast years ago — because that’s where I had extra content I could give folks — but it’s overall just for “me” in general.

Anyways.

My goal for the last year has been to increase the “value” for Patreon patrons, with all paid tiers getting access to a copy of Super Awesome Action Heroes, and the five dollar and ten dollar tiers getting access to my novels (at different times — the five dollar tier patrons get them on a year delay).

For a while I had been doing Patreon exclusive “vlogs,” but those didn’t last just because I literally ran out of things to say in them. I mean, I’m boring. The only eventful stuff in my life is the eventful stuff happening to all of us right now. Back in April, I think I came up with something fun that I’ve now done two months in a row.

And that’s record reaction videos to episodes of The Pagan Invasion.

You see, for the April episode of BS-Free Witchcraft I did an episode on the structure of Satanic Panic propaganda, and used the first episode of 1991’s The Pagan Invasion as the example to illustrate my points. For that episode I needed to, obviously, rewatch that first episode for research.

Rather than just watch it in private though, I recorded my rewatch as a commentary and reaction video and posted it as a Patreon exclusive video. And even though the podcast has moved on from the topic, folks asked me to react to episode two… so I did that last week. I fully intend to review the whole series on my Patreon now, and each one of my videos ends up being like two hours long. I don’t know if I’ll get a chance to do one every month, but I plan to get through the whole series.

Honestly I’m not sure why I didn’t think of doing something like this before.

So yeah, we’re doing fun stuff there. Oh, also, before I forget to say something — July is the annual Q&A episode of BS-Free Witchcraft, and I need listener questions. If you have something you want me to respond to on the show, just send it in via the show’s contact form by July 11th 2025.

View Comments

With the spring weather, I’ve been able to take walks at night again. It’s not much, just a two and a half mile loop, but it feels good to clear my head at the end of the day.

Throughout most of my life I’ve always found peace in a good walk. To have nothing but my thoughts for thirty minutes to an hour while my body moves on its own is something that I need, and I tend to forget that when I don’t do it for a while.

It’s when I most feel like myself.

It’s strange, but when I do it I sometimes feel like my physical self doesn’t exist. That I’m just thought in that moment. Other times, it’s the opposite and I feel most connected to my body and it to the world around me. We’re getting into some weird shit here, I know — but it’s also true.

I don’t know if there was really a point to this ramble. Sometimes I’m reminded of who I used to be, and I realize how much of that isn’t and still is who I am now. And I feel like it’s only when I’m on walks like that where I truly can assess that kind of thing.

Or maybe I’m just talking out of my ass, who knows.

I feel like I’ve been falling behind on a lot of my creative projects lately, and I’m trying to get back on track. Progress is happening, but not at the rate I’d like it to. Sometimes my brain is like that I guess, and you can’t squeeze water from a stone. But stuff will get done, and I’ll see this stuff through.

In the meanwhile, I’ll just put one foot in front of the other.

View Comments