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My grandmother died last night. This wasn't a shock or a surprise. Her health has been on the decline, and she's been in hospice for the last month. She lived a long life, and in her final days she was surrounded by her three adult children.
My grandma was a kind woman. She wasn't perfect, but I always felt loved in her presence. She was a retired kindergarten teacher, and was still working when I was a kid. I have so many happy memories sitting at her kitchen table, and I'm going to carry those with me for the rest of my life. She was also proof that anyone who claims that you get more conservative as you get older is full of shit, because she certainly didn't.
I think it's interesting how the body processes grief sometimes. I don't know that I'll cry, but over the past month, knowing this was coming, I've felt a tension in my gut. Now that she's passed, instead of relief that tension is replaced by a sense of emptiness. That something is missing that should still be there. Something has been taken away, and I feel it.
Of course, as I wrote that, I immediately started crying... so I guess my body processes grief in pretty ordinary ways too.
I wanted to come up with something profound linking this to Beltane, which we sit in the middle of right now, but it just seemed hackneyed. Like I was trying to dig out some greater significance when the truth is death comes whenever it wants. The only predictable thing about it is that it's the end of all of our journeys. I hope that when I pass I'm so lucky to have lived such a long life with people that I love around me in my final days.
For the record, I will be fine. I just needed to get these words out while they were still in my head. I don't have some rousing conclusion or deep insight to tack on here at the end, just that gut feeling that something is missing.
Because it is.
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I understand the motovation, but half an hour of discussion is truly a wildly short period of time. And I agree that turning everything into a vote instead of letting the discussion run its course isn’t going to end well.
I actually remember when this was an issue with our con as well.
Although we started emphasis on focus rather than calling for a vote every 30. We’ve had our fair share of meetings get a little too carried away with several discussions (So many times I forget), its just to the point where we’re older, we try to reign it in best we can and make sure to keep focus.
Funny thing is, I was in Sarah’s shoes. But never ever took it that far. Brought it up to my friends outside of meetings and during meetings requested that we try to be a bit more organized when it came to discussions.
You may laugh, but you do enough nudging over a long period of time and it takes seed in people’s mind.
Should Sarah stop trying so hard to just get things done instead of talking it out? Or is the act of endless discussion detrimental to con business? I move that we vote on the topic.
Seconded.
they spent 4 weeks debating changing something no one wanted changed so YEA i’m with her on this
One time on the UW-Madison Student Senate I seconded everything.