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My grandmother died last night. This wasn't a shock or a surprise. Her health has been on the decline, and she's been in hospice for the last month. She lived a long life, and in her final days she was surrounded by her three adult children.
My grandma was a kind woman. She wasn't perfect, but I always felt loved in her presence. She was a retired kindergarten teacher, and was still working when I was a kid. I have so many happy memories sitting at her kitchen table, and I'm going to carry those with me for the rest of my life. She was also proof that anyone who claims that you get more conservative as you get older is full of shit, because she certainly didn't.
I think it's interesting how the body processes grief sometimes. I don't know that I'll cry, but over the past month, knowing this was coming, I've felt a tension in my gut. Now that she's passed, instead of relief that tension is replaced by a sense of emptiness. That something is missing that should still be there. Something has been taken away, and I feel it.
Of course, as I wrote that, I immediately started crying... so I guess my body processes grief in pretty ordinary ways too.
I wanted to come up with something profound linking this to Beltane, which we sit in the middle of right now, but it just seemed hackneyed. Like I was trying to dig out some greater significance when the truth is death comes whenever it wants. The only predictable thing about it is that it's the end of all of our journeys. I hope that when I pass I'm so lucky to have lived such a long life with people that I love around me in my final days.
For the record, I will be fine. I just needed to get these words out while they were still in my head. I don't have some rousing conclusion or deep insight to tack on here at the end, just that gut feeling that something is missing.
Because it is.
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This is news to me now. I didn’t know Sarah P. was Asian. That’s pretty cool.
Her last name is “Park” — that’s like the second most Korean last name someone can have 😛
Honestly it doesn’t sound Korean to me. I guess maybe I’m little rascist myself but I always thought Korean names were like Wang, Kong, Yang, Wok. I don’t know Park just sounds more like a typical last name of anyone of any ethnic background.
…Langland, next time you say “Maybe I’m a little racist” think about what you say next.
Let’s break this down —
Wang is Chinese.
Yang and Kong CAN be Korean, but are much more common in China (although Kang is not uncommon in Korea).
And Wok is a Chinese cooking utensil dude. I’m not aware of anyone having that as a surname.
The top three Korean surnames are (in order of commonness) Kim, Lee, and Park. Those three surnames literally make up nearly half of all Koreans.
What about Park Chung-hee, the South Korean president who was really a dictator but was on friendly terms with the US because he wasn’t a communist?
Or, to be a bit nicer, the CURRENT president of South Korea Park Geun-hye (the first woman President of South Korea).
Or, to go Korean American — actress Grace Park of Battlestar Galactica and Hawaii Five-0. Or Linda Park of Star Trek: Enterprise.
Or Steve Park, the stand-up comic and In Living Color cast member. Park Chung-hee was just the first to come to mind for me because i recently took a Korean Culture course and that guy was mentioned a lot.
Sorry remember but remember Trae in your own words. I have no filters.
stupid typo
By the way I do recall in No Brand’s schedule they had full names on their wall of people who have to work what.
Depends on the Workforce head. I used to use just first names and nicknames when I did the scheduling back in the day
It’s possible for Sarah Park to go by a nickname, but with events so far, Racist Sarah gets the short end of the stick.
Typically in such situations, I’d let the two work it out between themselves. But as mentioned, everyone has their own way of doing things.
I haven’t explained this yet, but since Sarah Park is also staff, her shifts are preprinted on the master schedule unlike the volunteers.
Bill can sympathize.
Also, too bad Max didn’t take a page out of Professor River Song’s book of name differentiation…