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My grandmother died last night. This wasn't a shock or a surprise. Her health has been on the decline, and she's been in hospice for the last month. She lived a long life, and in her final days she was surrounded by her three adult children.
My grandma was a kind woman. She wasn't perfect, but I always felt loved in her presence. She was a retired kindergarten teacher, and was still working when I was a kid. I have so many happy memories sitting at her kitchen table, and I'm going to carry those with me for the rest of my life. She was also proof that anyone who claims that you get more conservative as you get older is full of shit, because she certainly didn't.
I think it's interesting how the body processes grief sometimes. I don't know that I'll cry, but over the past month, knowing this was coming, I've felt a tension in my gut. Now that she's passed, instead of relief that tension is replaced by a sense of emptiness. That something is missing that should still be there. Something has been taken away, and I feel it.
Of course, as I wrote that, I immediately started crying... so I guess my body processes grief in pretty ordinary ways too.
I wanted to come up with something profound linking this to Beltane, which we sit in the middle of right now, but it just seemed hackneyed. Like I was trying to dig out some greater significance when the truth is death comes whenever it wants. The only predictable thing about it is that it's the end of all of our journeys. I hope that when I pass I'm so lucky to have lived such a long life with people that I love around me in my final days.
For the record, I will be fine. I just needed to get these words out while they were still in my head. I don't have some rousing conclusion or deep insight to tack on here at the end, just that gut feeling that something is missing.
Because it is.
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I’m picturing 10 more minutes of intermittent “But what if” “No.” 40 seconds later: “Yeah but what” “NO.” 2 minutes later:”Wait” “NO!” She’s demanding a lot here!
The internal explanation can also include the reasoning that they aren’t worth our time. We’re too busy planning a successful convention.
She may be demanding a lot, but this is the only good path to take. Honestly, one I would as well.
The best response to someone who is trying to game you is to not play the game. At least, not play the game by the rules they set.
While I agree playing his game is a bad idea, it seems there should be -some- official response.
Absolutely not.
Making any kind of public response is giving it credence. It actually makes it WORSE when you acknowledge crazy shit because its the crazy shit that’s looking for attention.
If it were something that Borkcon did that was fucked up, and them admitting fault, that is one thing. But this? This is another person making a seemly ‘private’ e-mail public and editing it for his own game in the hopes that he can bring down another con through a drawn out negative PR game.
No matter what you do publically it puts you in a no-win scenero, not even recovering PR. What Jim did is genius sure, but it wasn’t smart.
Because people figure this out eventually when the cards are play correctly, which is what Lynn is going for.