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My grandmother died last night. This wasn't a shock or a surprise. Her health has been on the decline, and she's been in hospice for the last month. She lived a long life, and in her final days she was surrounded by her three adult children.
My grandma was a kind woman. She wasn't perfect, but I always felt loved in her presence. She was a retired kindergarten teacher, and was still working when I was a kid. I have so many happy memories sitting at her kitchen table, and I'm going to carry those with me for the rest of my life. She was also proof that anyone who claims that you get more conservative as you get older is full of shit, because she certainly didn't.
I think it's interesting how the body processes grief sometimes. I don't know that I'll cry, but over the past month, knowing this was coming, I've felt a tension in my gut. Now that she's passed, instead of relief that tension is replaced by a sense of emptiness. That something is missing that should still be there. Something has been taken away, and I feel it.
Of course, as I wrote that, I immediately started crying... so I guess my body processes grief in pretty ordinary ways too.
I wanted to come up with something profound linking this to Beltane, which we sit in the middle of right now, but it just seemed hackneyed. Like I was trying to dig out some greater significance when the truth is death comes whenever it wants. The only predictable thing about it is that it's the end of all of our journeys. I hope that when I pass I'm so lucky to have lived such a long life with people that I love around me in my final days.
For the record, I will be fine. I just needed to get these words out while they were still in my head. I don't have some rousing conclusion or deep insight to tack on here at the end, just that gut feeling that something is missing.
Because it is.
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Well, that was utterly completely unexpected…
They’ve been together for four years and five months, living together for over three years, and same sex marriage is finally legal in their state.
A little out of left field in the narrative? A little – but that was on purpose, and only just.
But everyone should have been expecting this pretty soon. 😛
more the Way it was done then the fact that it was done to be honest i was expecting this since her dads funeral
Well, that was the “little” bit.
And yeah, everyone should have been expecting this since Megan’s Dad’s funeral. I was kind of telegraphing. 😛
Awwwwwww…
The whole “thinking about the future, gah!” immediately made me think it was going to lead to a marriage conversation. Not having seen these two discuss that at all made me not expect a proposal, because it’s becoming more and more common to cohabitate indefinitely without marriage, and I didn’t know their feelings on this. When thinking about any of my friends that have been together that long, I always think something like “It’s about time!” which is just ironic considering that Brian and I have been together longer than most of them have even known each other and feel no particular call to get married.
Eh, I don’t think its ironic — you just happen to be wired differently than a lot of other people. Nothing wrong with it.
That’s adorable
Not sure if that’s a horrible proposal, or a great one. Asuming of course it is a proposal… might be a vintage pokemon card in there, or something.
They don’t seem like the type to have a huge grand proposal. This actually fits them. No we wait for the reaction…
What about “huhwhatthe-panic-iloveyou-panic-setthedate?-panic-helpmeweddingday-ikillyousomeday-(butiloveyou)-eeekweddingandparentsandfriendsfromstaf-PANIC?