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My grandmother died last night. This wasn't a shock or a surprise. Her health has been on the decline, and she's been in hospice for the last month. She lived a long life, and in her final days she was surrounded by her three adult children.
My grandma was a kind woman. She wasn't perfect, but I always felt loved in her presence. She was a retired kindergarten teacher, and was still working when I was a kid. I have so many happy memories sitting at her kitchen table, and I'm going to carry those with me for the rest of my life. She was also proof that anyone who claims that you get more conservative as you get older is full of shit, because she certainly didn't.
I think it's interesting how the body processes grief sometimes. I don't know that I'll cry, but over the past month, knowing this was coming, I've felt a tension in my gut. Now that she's passed, instead of relief that tension is replaced by a sense of emptiness. That something is missing that should still be there. Something has been taken away, and I feel it.
Of course, as I wrote that, I immediately started crying... so I guess my body processes grief in pretty ordinary ways too.
I wanted to come up with something profound linking this to Beltane, which we sit in the middle of right now, but it just seemed hackneyed. Like I was trying to dig out some greater significance when the truth is death comes whenever it wants. The only predictable thing about it is that it's the end of all of our journeys. I hope that when I pass I'm so lucky to have lived such a long life with people that I love around me in my final days.
For the record, I will be fine. I just needed to get these words out while they were still in my head. I don't have some rousing conclusion or deep insight to tack on here at the end, just that gut feeling that something is missing.
Because it is.
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Hey look free candy at Unagi Con’s table.It looks like they could gobstoppers or maybe sprees.
Jim did railroad Lynn out of her position in a shitty way. She literally went out of her way to do a specific job at Unagi con. Take that job away and in a shitty way to boot, what loyalty does she have left, to Jim or Unagi con? Zilch. Jim should have realized that before taking action.
Garner didn’t “want out”.unless he told Lynn something off-screen. When Lynn first made the offer to jump ship Garner replied “why would I do that?”
So they’re 1-1 in my book.
What Jim did is far worse than Lynn “poaching” Garner, especially since she used no form of coercion, trickery, or underhanded tactics to win him over. He asked her for a reason and she gave one he was in full support of because he agreed that leaving a Nazi to run about the con was ludicrous.
Meanwhile, Jim was in the wrong from the get-go. He left his staff to deal with a problem he should have stepped up and done himself and when defied, he used childish, underhanded tactics.
I’m not saying Lynn is a faultless angel, but I’d hardly call her and Jim even.