Current Post On Trae’s Blog:
My grandmother died last night. This wasn't a shock or a surprise. Her health has been on the decline, and she's been in hospice for the last month. She lived a long life, and in her final days she was surrounded by her three adult children.
My grandma was a kind woman. She wasn't perfect, but I always felt loved in her presence. She was a retired kindergarten teacher, and was still working when I was a kid. I have so many happy memories sitting at her kitchen table, and I'm going to carry those with me for the rest of my life. She was also proof that anyone who claims that you get more conservative as you get older is full of shit, because she certainly didn't.
I think it's interesting how the body processes grief sometimes. I don't know that I'll cry, but over the past month, knowing this was coming, I've felt a tension in my gut. Now that she's passed, instead of relief that tension is replaced by a sense of emptiness. That something is missing that should still be there. Something has been taken away, and I feel it.
Of course, as I wrote that, I immediately started crying... so I guess my body processes grief in pretty ordinary ways too.
I wanted to come up with something profound linking this to Beltane, which we sit in the middle of right now, but it just seemed hackneyed. Like I was trying to dig out some greater significance when the truth is death comes whenever it wants. The only predictable thing about it is that it's the end of all of our journeys. I hope that when I pass I'm so lucky to have lived such a long life with people that I love around me in my final days.
For the record, I will be fine. I just needed to get these words out while they were still in my head. I don't have some rousing conclusion or deep insight to tack on here at the end, just that gut feeling that something is missing.
Because it is.
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um ….is the guy from the other con just this D hole in a wig?
I think Garner is used to feeling small/weak and lashes out to feel strong, whereas Terrence is used to feeling important and powerful and lashes out at people who threaten that feeling. The result is the same though, so how about we let the two of them go off and start their own con. Clearly they think they know enough.
And this is when Terrence gets fired from staff for not being a team player. Well at least I would wish that. No but Terrence could get put in his place by Lynn in my opinion only if Lynn wanted to.
It’s hard to fire people when they’re all unpaid volunteers and you’re understaffed.
Not when they’re a negative. Either fix your attitude or be gone. I’d rather be short staffed than having a member that causes that much drama.
I’ve walked away from volunteering at two cons because of jerks like this in charge. They weren’t mistreating me but I wasn’t going to be part of an organization that allowed it.
Ah, lifestyles of the socially clueless. Dammit Terrence, you CAN be the guy that calls people on their crap – but only if you’re actually good at knowing when it’s warranted. This “Actually it’s a free opportunity to wave your superiority peen around” stuff just makes you an asshole – and is just gonna get your face rearranged eventually. Sadly, that’s often what it takes. Not really into that as a first option, but there are genuinely times when I’ll allow it.
I take back everything I’ve ever said in defense of this guy, put to and including the idea that maybe Sarah as a little harsh. He assumed they were out to annoy him over freaking pancakes… Pancakes! What the actual heck?
I do have to wonder… Is this particular scenario based on an actual event?
I should also mention that I’ve worked the con scene before and met my fair share of crazies… Such as a treasurer who decided to hide a super expensive projector from the tech guy’s staff because she decided he needed a lesson in responsibility. She then proceeded to call his parents’ home number in the middle of the night and left him in a panic frenzy for hours trying to find the damn thing. This all happened during a convention when panelist and staff needed said projector.
He has quite a bit of real life inspiration, yes.
Saving me the trouble of posting the same thing. I’m still inclined to think Sarah’s behavior could have contributed to this outcome. Terrence being an ass doesn’t mean Sarah hasn’t been one.
Sarah hasn’t been a saint, and we havn’t seen everything, but my opinion of Terrance is dropping like a rock.