Current Post On Trae’s Blog:
My grandmother died last night. This wasn't a shock or a surprise. Her health has been on the decline, and she's been in hospice for the last month. She lived a long life, and in her final days she was surrounded by her three adult children.
My grandma was a kind woman. She wasn't perfect, but I always felt loved in her presence. She was a retired kindergarten teacher, and was still working when I was a kid. I have so many happy memories sitting at her kitchen table, and I'm going to carry those with me for the rest of my life. She was also proof that anyone who claims that you get more conservative as you get older is full of shit, because she certainly didn't.
I think it's interesting how the body processes grief sometimes. I don't know that I'll cry, but over the past month, knowing this was coming, I've felt a tension in my gut. Now that she's passed, instead of relief that tension is replaced by a sense of emptiness. That something is missing that should still be there. Something has been taken away, and I feel it.
Of course, as I wrote that, I immediately started crying... so I guess my body processes grief in pretty ordinary ways too.
I wanted to come up with something profound linking this to Beltane, which we sit in the middle of right now, but it just seemed hackneyed. Like I was trying to dig out some greater significance when the truth is death comes whenever it wants. The only predictable thing about it is that it's the end of all of our journeys. I hope that when I pass I'm so lucky to have lived such a long life with people that I love around me in my final days.
For the record, I will be fine. I just needed to get these words out while they were still in my head. I don't have some rousing conclusion or deep insight to tack on here at the end, just that gut feeling that something is missing.
Because it is.
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Duh duh dum!
Just realized that is the Lismore formerly known as Ramada used for the building…
Is that restraining order still in effect?
More than likely yes. It’s only been a year (maybe two?), and I’m pretty sure they don’t just end that quickly. Which makes it interesting that he even approached the desk in the first place since Ruth is clearly visible right there.
It would very much depend on the state and jurisdictions: for example a TRO in Florida is initially good for only 15 days, pending a judicial review for renewable extension or conversion to a PRO. Extensions or conversion very much depend on demonstration of an ongoing threat of violence or harassment beyond the initial incident(s). Terrence badmouthing the convention would be unlikely to be a demonstration of that harassment; directly badmouthing, harassing, or having contact with Ruth and Sara during the TRO would clearly be demonstration. Unless Ruth or Sara filed a complaint against Terrence for violating contact during the whole “Nazi cosplay” incident, the court would not have that incident to work off of. If they had, he’d probably have been or still be in jail.
Ultimately, it’s up to Trae and the power-of-the-plot as to whether the restraining order is still in effect: could be ongoing, could have lapsed.
However, Lynn is pretty much in the clear to tell Terrence to pound sand, right to refuse service. If Terrence has rented a room, it would be up to the hotel to decide if he should leave the physical hotel property. If he has not rented a room, the hotel is free to ask him in no uncertain terms to leave or suffer trespass.
So now the question is can Lynn maintain her anti-Jim professionalism? I mean, Terrance is a pretty unabashed dick.
I’m not even sure why there’s a question – I’d just invoke the refuse service to anyone rules and call him banned, now GTFO. Why even engage with a moron like that – call venue security now and have him 86’d out of all event spaces at the very least. Have yet to see a venue that’ll argue about that one – some will even flat out find the person another room somewhere else, as it’s obvious they’re trying to get around a ban with cause that’s going to end in liability issues for the venue when it all inevitably goes south – restraining order or not. It usually ends up amounting to a slightly less version of, “This event is paying more for the venue than you are for a room – they win.”