Current Post On Trae’s Blog:
My grandmother died last night. This wasn't a shock or a surprise. Her health has been on the decline, and she's been in hospice for the last month. She lived a long life, and in her final days she was surrounded by her three adult children.
My grandma was a kind woman. She wasn't perfect, but I always felt loved in her presence. She was a retired kindergarten teacher, and was still working when I was a kid. I have so many happy memories sitting at her kitchen table, and I'm going to carry those with me for the rest of my life. She was also proof that anyone who claims that you get more conservative as you get older is full of shit, because she certainly didn't.
I think it's interesting how the body processes grief sometimes. I don't know that I'll cry, but over the past month, knowing this was coming, I've felt a tension in my gut. Now that she's passed, instead of relief that tension is replaced by a sense of emptiness. That something is missing that should still be there. Something has been taken away, and I feel it.
Of course, as I wrote that, I immediately started crying... so I guess my body processes grief in pretty ordinary ways too.
I wanted to come up with something profound linking this to Beltane, which we sit in the middle of right now, but it just seemed hackneyed. Like I was trying to dig out some greater significance when the truth is death comes whenever it wants. The only predictable thing about it is that it's the end of all of our journeys. I hope that when I pass I'm so lucky to have lived such a long life with people that I love around me in my final days.
For the record, I will be fine. I just needed to get these words out while they were still in my head. I don't have some rousing conclusion or deep insight to tack on here at the end, just that gut feeling that something is missing.
Because it is.
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Well then. Jim’s level of unprofessionalism just keeps getting worse, doesn’t it? Also, I’m kinda trying to wrap my head around an alliance between Terrence and Jim… I mean, wow.
I’m disappointed in Jim. Not entirely surprised because people used to power can get awfully petty when they are challenged and lose, but disappointed nonetheless. I liked his low-key style and this isn’t low-key. Sure he’s a calculating social manipulator. Running an organization like Unagi Con, where they hold elections for con posts, that’s practically a job requirement.
Running a FB group and putting numerous posts into it, is time he isn’t spending on Unagi con.
Plus, how hard is it to set up a fake FB account to post from? That’s just lazy.
I’ve seen in happen in real life.
Only asking because I’ve seen this come up IRL for a con… is this anti-Bork Con FB group using the Bork Con logo? Because I’m assuming that Bork Con has their logo trademarked, which means this FB group can’t legally use it without authorization…
Does Jim realize that Terrance is the guy who showed up at UnagiCon in a Nazi uniform? Because even if he’s really, really pissed at Lynn, someone with enough social smarts to stay Unagicon Chair for a decade ought to have given some thought to the potential blowback that could come from palling around with a guy that likes to dress up as a Nazi. Because that’s bound to come out at some point.
I think it’s been established that Jim doesn’t have a problem with that.
Honest to God, I thought it was going to be Gardner and Terrance ganging up on Bork Con. Who knew?