Current Post On Trae’s Blog:
My grandmother died last night. This wasn't a shock or a surprise. Her health has been on the decline, and she's been in hospice for the last month. She lived a long life, and in her final days she was surrounded by her three adult children.
My grandma was a kind woman. She wasn't perfect, but I always felt loved in her presence. She was a retired kindergarten teacher, and was still working when I was a kid. I have so many happy memories sitting at her kitchen table, and I'm going to carry those with me for the rest of my life. She was also proof that anyone who claims that you get more conservative as you get older is full of shit, because she certainly didn't.
I think it's interesting how the body processes grief sometimes. I don't know that I'll cry, but over the past month, knowing this was coming, I've felt a tension in my gut. Now that she's passed, instead of relief that tension is replaced by a sense of emptiness. That something is missing that should still be there. Something has been taken away, and I feel it.
Of course, as I wrote that, I immediately started crying... so I guess my body processes grief in pretty ordinary ways too.
I wanted to come up with something profound linking this to Beltane, which we sit in the middle of right now, but it just seemed hackneyed. Like I was trying to dig out some greater significance when the truth is death comes whenever it wants. The only predictable thing about it is that it's the end of all of our journeys. I hope that when I pass I'm so lucky to have lived such a long life with people that I love around me in my final days.
For the record, I will be fine. I just needed to get these words out while they were still in my head. I don't have some rousing conclusion or deep insight to tack on here at the end, just that gut feeling that something is missing.
Because it is.
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It’s not really defended Terrance as saying Sarah is just as much if not more of an ass at times.
Having known “Sarahs” working cons, I really do not blame Terrance for wanting to just ignore her.
Every time I think Sarah is being unfair to Terrence, he opens his mouth.
I’m beginning to suspect the trouble between these two is going to come to a head at the expense of the Borkcon staff… In my experience, these little squabbles can very easily become surprise landmines.
Terrence just can’t learn to shut up and be nice apparently. I know I used to say offensive things but I’d at least not say this kind of crap.
Err, neither can Sarah? See all the “Terrence/Sarah is just being a jerk.” stuff on this arc, when really all I can see is Terrence starting crap by being an idiot, and Sarah nurturing, watering, cuddling, and feeding the resulting grudge until it’s 50′ tall and taking over cities.
Sure, Terrence is a socially retarded jackass, but Sarah is pretty much all about never, ever, EVER letting one single thing go. She also seems to assume malice long before the thought of lack of competence enters her mind.
In short – they’re both being jackholes – just for different reasons. There’s no “this one’s wrong, that one’s right” here. They both own stock in gas stations and they’re chucking it all over the fire in alternately.
* Sure, Sarah said something nice. If I were Terrence, I’d be suspicious as hell too! Considering that makes her about 1/250… yeah that doesn’t make it all cool.
See, the problem there is that you’re putting “insults someone repeatedly and refer to them as ‘it’ within 5 minutes of meeting them” as on the same level as “don’t forgive someone for insulting you repeatedly”. Sarah opened by being friendly and had to be pushed into being rude, Terrance opened by being rude. Should Sarah have given him another chance earlier? Certainly. But she did give him another chance now, and Terrance still managed to be an ass in response.
And the thing is, I can understand that Sarah wouldn’t be inclined to be friendly after he insulted her when they first met. Even if she wants to insult him, I can understand that, especially if he was rude continuously in subsequent interactions.
But see, the issue HERE is, yes, Terrence was an ass in response to Sarah being nice now. BUT, recall that Sarah started out their interactions for the day with Sarah repeatedly telling him that she absolutely loathed him and hated the idea of working with him, and that pretty much after the day was over she was going to not make an effort to be civil with him. All while he repeatedly tried to deny any mutuality to the hatred and just wanted to get to work on the garage sale. So even if Sarah was trying to be nice NOW, in this particular case I think she sort of shot herself in the foot earlier with her grandiose declaration of hatred for him.
Plus, as Scrappy was so kind to point out earlier, every conversation they have had since the ill-fated first meeting where it all began seems to have begun with Sarah referring to Terrence as garbage in some form. So I can sort of see Terrence having already begun his journey to this point beforehand.
From Sarah’s point of view, she started the day trying to ask Terrence if they could be civil, and he told her she was unimportant,
When the whole reason she’s mad is because he wouldn’t treat her like a person.
Just something to consider.
If the question is, is Terrence or Sarah being a jerk, the answer is yes.
A very fair response to this whole situation, thank you.