Current Post On Trae’s Blog:
My grandmother died last night. This wasn't a shock or a surprise. Her health has been on the decline, and she's been in hospice for the last month. She lived a long life, and in her final days she was surrounded by her three adult children.
My grandma was a kind woman. She wasn't perfect, but I always felt loved in her presence. She was a retired kindergarten teacher, and was still working when I was a kid. I have so many happy memories sitting at her kitchen table, and I'm going to carry those with me for the rest of my life. She was also proof that anyone who claims that you get more conservative as you get older is full of shit, because she certainly didn't.
I think it's interesting how the body processes grief sometimes. I don't know that I'll cry, but over the past month, knowing this was coming, I've felt a tension in my gut. Now that she's passed, instead of relief that tension is replaced by a sense of emptiness. That something is missing that should still be there. Something has been taken away, and I feel it.
Of course, as I wrote that, I immediately started crying... so I guess my body processes grief in pretty ordinary ways too.
I wanted to come up with something profound linking this to Beltane, which we sit in the middle of right now, but it just seemed hackneyed. Like I was trying to dig out some greater significance when the truth is death comes whenever it wants. The only predictable thing about it is that it's the end of all of our journeys. I hope that when I pass I'm so lucky to have lived such a long life with people that I love around me in my final days.
For the record, I will be fine. I just needed to get these words out while they were still in my head. I don't have some rousing conclusion or deep insight to tack on here at the end, just that gut feeling that something is missing.
Because it is.
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Fake geek should keep his mouth shut
Veronica did mismanage Terrence. She either shouldn’t have let him on staff to begin with or shouldn’t have let Sarah go after him so relentlessly.
To be clear Veronica didn’t cause the Bork Con’s money problems, but Jim showed with the way he runs Unagi Con that a problem personality can be handled and their strengths still utilized. But you need tools more subtle than a sledgehammer.
http://www.unconventional-comic.com/2017/06/crazy-person/
http://www.unconventional-comic.com/2017/06/basic-group-dynamics/
….wow…. just when I think he’s hit rock bottom, he breaks out the jackhammer and keeps going.
Open mouth, insert foot, chew vigorously…
In addition to being a major Douche, he also seems to be missing several clues about how concoms work.
Most of ’em I think. Though to be honest since he’s only there to help his ego by taking credit for success and blaming other people for failure, actually getting involved in making it RUN would be counterproductive. Besides being a major Douche.
Had something like this happen when I was running a con. An ‘artist’ managed to get himself kicked out of our event for being a total arse. The next day they decided to clog our forums with a tirade about how we were ‘unfair’ to him. They decided to go onto just about every other convention forum they could find and post their same message. I spent the better part of 2 weeks tracking them down and posting our side.
Those like T-Douche above have a special place in heck awaiting for them.